That is not really for me to decide. Sorry, was that helpful!? Deciding whether therapy is right for you is a personal journey. I can share my experiences to help you reflect, but ultimately, you'll need to decide for yourself.
My Experiences with Therapy
Therapy wasn’t right for me at the time I tried it. I sought logical answers and ways to move forward when past trauma resurfaced. I booked a session, but I didn’t connect with my therapist and didn’t want to talk. I felt closed off and just wanted to stop feeling the way I did.
Despite my reluctance, I attended therapy consistently for over a year. Dealing with long-hidden trauma, therapy felt more triggering than helpful. Each session brought up painful memories, but I also never fully opened up. Therapy was expensive and mentally exhausting, and I didn't get the answers I wanted.
Spending Time to Find a Therapist
I tried different therapists:
First Therapist: As mentioned, I was not ready to open up to them.
Second Therapist: I felt like I was annoying them, so I only had one session.
Third Therapist: They gave me logical explanations about anxiety, which resonated with me. However, they insisted on discussing my trauma, which I wasn’t ready for, so I didn’t return.
Fourth Therapist: They suggested I leave my relationship because it was abusive. I didn’t understand how it was abusive since there was no physical violence, so I never went back.
In the End, Was Therapy Right for Me?
After nearly two years of trying to find the right therapist, I decided therapy wasn't for me. Instead, I looked at different ways to deal with the trauma. Pandora’s box was certainly open, so I couldn’t stuff the worms back in. So, I created a toolkit for survival. See blog Building a Toolkit for Survival on some of the things I tried instead of therapy. I identified my triggers and learned coping mechanisms that worked for me. I became very self-aware and pulled myself out of dark places. I got to a place I am very proud of.
In hindsight, therapy was likely a contributing factor to my strength. Each therapist helped me recognise my pain and the need to address it. Without starting therapy, I might not have reached this conclusion.
Would I Try Therapy Again?
About four years later, I met another therapist during a routine health check at my new job. We connected over the phone, and they listened, offered kind words, and provided advice. This therapist, I connected with. I felt heard and lighter after the session, and I knew I could reach out again if needed. I haven't felt the need to make an appointment yet, but now I know there are other therapists out there that I have the ability to connect to, so I would.
Is Therapy Right For You?
So, is therapy right for you? It might be, or it might not be the right time. Finding a therapist that works for you can take time, and it's okay to switch therapists if needed. Consider where you feel most comfortable—whether in person, over the phone, or in a video session.
Think about what you can afford. Don’t add financial stress if therapy isn't affordable right now. You might also find that you’re not ready for therapy yet, and that’s okay. The key is to do something. If something is bothering you, act—whether it's therapy or sharing your story on a platform like this.
Remember, whatever works for you, works.
Disclaimer: The information provided in this blog is for informational purposes only. It is not intended to substitute for professional advice, treatment or diagnosis. Always seek the advice of a professional in these circumstances. Never disregard professional advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have read on this website.
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